Fall; the Rejuvenating Season

Whenever October beautifully and slowly folds in, I reminisce over the allure season and its warm colors.

To me, Fall reflects a reality of change and modification. One day, like those Autumn leaves, we will set off and leave to a journey elsewhere. To that, I celebrate this Truth through the poem below;

Brown, orange and red

Each leaf drops down dead.

Yet, there is beauty in that

Highlighting the fact

That at one point any entity comes to an end –

Yes, that is the main message I send!

Dried leaves crush under my feet

Making music down the street.

Mellowed richness gather by the side

Saying good bye to my stride.

They don’t quit, they just leave

To another life, they believe!

Crispy cool air brushes at my cheeks,

Then, from a tree a squirrel peaks,

Longing for this season to arrive

As it hops, looks around, and hive.

The first smells of the fireplace,

In my nostrils, leave wood trace.

The crimson and scarlet colors

Scatter all over like feathers.

Keeping me warm as I walk

Making me unable to talk.

Pumpkins, acorns, berries, and corn

Honeyed meadows are born.

Wearing a burgundy scarf and a golden crown

Nature astounds me with its gypsy gown.

With every leaf fluttering to the ground

My heavy burdens are released and drowned.

It’s at this time of the year

I feel I have nothing to fear.

Like the balanced day and night

The good equals the evil on the inside.

Making me assess my soul,

Asking where I’m heading

And what is my goal?

The impermanence of life can be seen

Felt and absorbed with a mind so keen.

Let the darkness inside settle still

Until it frosts to a complete chill.

Give the Light the time to grow

Work on oneself before you go.

It’s true that every phase will soon be gone,

But a soul is constantly on the run.

Floating and twirling in many a form,

Thirsty for that bright Truth to swarm.

Filled with hope I float along,

In this caramelized paradise where I belong.

Feeling happy and in peace,

All my agony has been released!

Autumn, life with you is just a start

A beginning of a new cycle, there is no doubt!

Because when one existence says adieu

A new one blooms in another milieu.

Rania Hussant

October 1, 2017

P.S.: These pictures were taken twelve years ago when I used to live in France.

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My 3rd Blogiversary

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Hello guys,

Three years ago, I launched thehelicoptermommy since I wanted to share my experience as a mom of five through a real virtual world that can reach moms across the continents.

Moms who come from different places, diverse backgrounds with various beliefs and several principles. Moms who are employed and moms who are not. Whatever and wherever we come from, we are after all moms, and that is what unites us!

Yes we are simply moms who are doing our best and trying to enjoy motherhood with all the bitter sweet challenges it brings along.

We all have our own daily struggles and hassles. We all deal with such conflicts in the best way we think is correct. We make mistakes and we learn, and then a new battle arises. Yet, on the baseline, we all share the same foundations. In fact, we are all riding the same boat.

Throughout those few years not much has changed, but thanks to wonderful people like you a lot has been acquired:

• I love the fact that through blogging I have met inspiring super mamas who have left a special mark in my heart. From the inspiring moms whom I worked with, to those whom I met virtually, I have learned a lot from them and made some new good friends too.

• I can’t be more happier to be able to exercise my passion and hobby as an aspiring writer, especially because it inspires other moms in maintaining a positive attitude. Moreover, writing those words which come tumbling down on me, helps me maintain my sanity as I juggle through my busy life.

• It is always a great pleasure to know from you my dear followers and readers how much you enjoy my posts and find them beneficial. That is the best reward I can get! At the same time, going over my words again calms me down and helps me overcome certain challenges I face as a parent.

• With the blogging experience I have gained more patience and an awareness of how people and things function. Things do not come the easy way, and one needs to work hard to attain the successes one seeks.

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Today, thehelicoptermommy celebrates its 3rd anniversary, and I am looking forward to the years ahead of me.

For this year, we will continue to empower moms throughout their journeys by holding as many educational and intellectual events related to parenting as possible. Please, let me know of any specific topics you would like me to address, so we can tackle it in the coming year.

Finally, I do hope that you will continue to enjoy my platform as without you, all of this would not have been accomplished .

With love,

Rania – thehelicoptermommy

PS: Thank you Atelier Blanc for hosting me and providing me with your charming venue.

And what other place to be when I got to indulge myself with their rich chocolate in celebration to my three beautiful years of blogging?

Photo credit: @nad_naddoun

Women In Business

In the past few decades, women have achieved great successes and attained unique goals. We see them in different fields of work, inventions, and businesses. They have used their creative multitasking skills and chased their dreams inspiring and empowering others.

September 22 marks the founding of the American Business Women’s Association. Its mission is ‘to bring together businesswomen of diverse occupations and to provide opportunities for them to help themselves and others grow personally and professionally through leadership, education, networking and support.’

In honor of such super women, I got in contact with the following business ladies who were delighted to tell us all about their startup businesses, and to inspire others attain their dreams.

  1. Razan Nabulsi – Dots and Links Skills Development Center – UAE

Being in the business for five years and a half now, Razan explains how rewarding their work is when they see tangible proof of children and adults leading significantly better lives after completing the BrainRx program. That is what mainly inspires her to continue providing people with such a unique learning opportunity.

The business life, according to Razan, has many challenges. One of them is having work life balance where she has to manage her time and prioritize her social life. Her working life makes her do only what really matters and be with people who truly mean a lot to her.

In addition to the above mentioned, the difficulties she faces at work is not being able to take a time off as she is always on call. By time, she learned to only stop at what really matters and keep her focus on delivering amazing results with all their students. According to her when a person has a focus and a clearly defined purpose, things become easier in the business life.

2. Vanessa Bosson – Hallabolou… where every child’s a star! – UAE

Working as an Early Childhood Educator for 18 years, Vanessa saw a need for a program that would allow children to learn while having fun. The idea of ‘Hallabolou‘ began in 2010 which was a dream that had been floating around in her head for quiet a while.

At the beginning, her initial concept of ‘Hallabolou’ was just a theater program, but it has expanded since then to greater aspirations to include science, technology, engineering, art and imagination. She created ‘Hallabolou’ with a unique educational philosophy behind it based on “The 5 Points of Discovery”.

As in all businesses, there are difficulties, and one of her biggest quandaries is explaining how they teach. She states that they may present similar classes and camps as other companies do, but they do take great pride in how they teach and not just what they teach. That is what they call, The Hallabolou Way.

In fact, the Hallabolou Way builds on each child’s own unique qualities, adjusts to each specific environment, and makes every child a star! Mr. Rogers once said, she quotes, “Play is really the work of childhood.” So whether it is constructing in the bRiK Programs, or building a rocket ship and watching it launch 100 feet in the air during EXTREME Steam, each program and event incorporates learning through play, which is the absolute core of ‘Hallabolou’s’ existence.

Their growth and change stems from expectations of the extraordinary, belief in a superior participant experience, and outstanding customer service. All this combines to make ‘Hallabolou’ not just a business, but an experience that she is proud to share with the community!

She continues saying that the main element that inspires her is to have fun!


She reiterates stressing the fact that learning should be an enjoyable process. Growing up with a learning disability herself in the 80’s was hard on her. She wasn’t even diagnosed until she was 14 years old. That is why, she struggled and compensated the best way she could, but it was the teachers who made learning fun, and that made the difference. They are the teachers she still remembers to this day. She ends saying that she wants all children to learn as knowledge is power and they are the future.

3. Janis Sarraf Tabet -Photographer – Lebanon

Back in 2007, Janis opened her own studio in Jdeitat el Matn and has been working in it since then. Her main focus now is capturing special moments for kids, newborns, families, and fashion photography. According to her, in order to run a photography business a person also needs to be a skilled marketer, accountant, and digital editor.

As a photographer she spends all her time behind the camera, which is normal, and she is not able to focus on issues like marketing for instance. So her challenge as a professional photographer, was to find her niche which is newborn photography, family portraits, kids photography and stick to it. By doing so, she is now able to multi-task and enjoy what she does best.

She ends by saying that her children inspire her every single day. Due to them, she switched from fashion photography photo-sessions and ended up in doing 80% kids photo-shoots by 2017. Jannis ends affirming, ‘I owe it all to my daughters, and I am obsessed about taking pictures of them. 🙂 ‘

4. Aleen Chehayeb Alame – The Garden Child – KSA

Nearly a year ago and after becoming a stay at home mom, Aleen decided to take on her passion for crafts by designing handmade accessories for young girls. That is how ‘The Garden Child‘ came to life.

Being accustomed to office work, and freelancing off her laptop, she was actually stepping out of her comfort zone by choosing handcrafting as a profession. At the same time, she knew that she did not need to wait any longer, and decided to launch immediately, acknowledging the fact that she will learn to improve as she goes.

Like in all businesses there are many challenges. One of them is the tendency in getting easily distracted by what happens on a daily basis. Still, she tries her best to stick to a schedule where her main work would be during the time when her daughter goes to play-school or takes a nap. Naturally, that helps her stay dedicated and focused whilst juggling her responsibilities towards being a mother, wife and homemaker too. Moreover, she always challenges herself by making her designs classic, yet unique at the same time.

She adds, and I quote; ‘The good part about working on your own is that you get to be in control of the direction of your creative business. Every success and failure is on you. Thankfully, I have a very supportive surrounding, starting with first and foremost, my husband.’

Aleen ends by stating that she has always appreciated anything handmade. She loves the fact that through ‘The Garden Child‘ she gets to be creative, and that she can get to bring that creativity into others’ lives.

5. Nadine Chamaa – The Kitchen Babe – Lebanon

Since the age of twelve, Nadine has had a unique relation with the kitchen. It took her some time though to establish her own business, but when she did she excelled.

She currently runs a food blog named ‘The Kitchen Babe’ where she enjoys most of her time in her kitchen. Two years ago, after her children left to study abroad, she felt she had to share the food that she prepared on her social media. Then, she decided to create a food blog, through which she shared her recipes, her approach to food, and how she prepares it in her simple yet beautiful and colorful way. She also started following different food trends in order to understand the market. Then, she worked on testing more recipes until she finally created new food concepts like her artisitc and mouth-watering “Labneh Cone”.

Soon, she started developing recipes for brands and restaurants. Then, she prompted food styling for advertisements and movies.

Some of her difficulties were mostly on learning to build a website and understand SEO – Search Engine Optimization – which were a new dimension for her. She even had to take digital photography courses so that she does justice to the food that she was creating. Sometimes she spends around six hours, researching, creating, executing, food styling and propping. Finding the right lighting, shooting, editing, posting, writing and interacting with her audience are also tasks she has mastered.

Now that her children are back and they saw what their mom has achieved while they were away, they are proud of how far she has come. Nadine ends by focusing on her belief that if a person is happy in her kitchen, it reflects on the home atmosphere. She knows that there is still so much for her to do, and since she is passionate about what she is doing, each day is a new promise for her to push her limits and create something new. She is willing to continue learning everyday and to continue to share what she learns.

6. Khadijah Lajam – Chateau de Sable stores in UAE

Khadija talks about Chateau de Sable with affection and fondness. Her business started when she had just given birth to her first baby boy at the beginning of 2009. He was only a few months old, and she was already at the design stage and sourcing for locations. By the end of 2009, she finally opened her first boutique in Wahda Mall.
Like any new business, Khadija explicitly talks about the personal and professional difficulties she passed through. Firstly, she was a new mother and was pregnant with her second. She was juggling between learning how to be a mother and setting up a store at the same time. It did not take her long to learn that its all about time management, but what has also helped her was that her babies slept a lot when young!

Besides managing her time, the market in 2009 was different. Back then, there were not many malls in Abu Dhabi. In fact, there were mainly Marina Mall and Abu Dhabi Mall which were very established and had no vacancy. Luckily, Al Wahda Mall had just opened then, and she had to prepare a very well thought of presentation to secure a space over for her.
The difficulties did not stop there. The market was less established in terms of entrepreneurship and sourcing for contractors who are familiar with retail for SMEs (Small and Medium Enterprises). A lot of the bigger groups had their in house design and execution teams for their concepts. Fishing around Abu Dhabi for small things like a graphic designer for paper bags took a lot of effort!

She even mentioned how once the contractor was not meeting his deadlines, so she took the liberty to paint part of the store herself, and help with the clean up too in order to successfully meet the target date.
Once the set up was done at Al Wahda Mall’s boutique, she started learning the in and outs of retail in UAE and the rest as she said is history! Khadijah did not stop there and has played a major role in helping keep the ball rolling for their subsequent stores in Yas Mall and Dubai Mall!
I loved how Khadijah got the inspiration of managing her own business! She simply says that it was all about her family. In fact, her father is a businessman and was always an inspiration. At the same time, her mother consistently continues to work on developing herself. Naturally Khadijah grew around them as her role models.
However, the final push for her to go into this field was also family, but this time it came in the form of a cute little baby boy in her life! When she gave birth, she found shopping in the UAE to be hard. There were not too many choices. She either had to invest a lot of money in big brands which babies basically outgrew or soiled themselves in, or she had to settle for generic brands which didn’t suit Ali, her son, well. It turns out that he had eczema and she had to be careful around fabrics with a polyester mix which is unfortunately a lot of what retailers produce. She wanted to be practical, but it was hard with the offering given then.
One evening she just looked at her husband and discussed how all she wanted were nice clothes that are affordable and of utmost quality. She smiles as she repeats his words saying, “If nothing you want is available, why don’t you do something? I’m sure there are more mothers like you!”.
At first, she was hesitant as she already had a lot on her plate at that stage of her life! However, he pushed her to work on it encouraging and supporting her through that life-changing year. Today, she celebrates her seventh year in Abu Dhabi, and they have just finished five years of operation in Dubai as well!

7. Afaf Balaa – Da3douka – Lebanon

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Afaf’s journey with ‘Da3douka‘, which is a natural homemade play dough made with 100% food grade ingredients, started as one of the products that she provided children at home and her mobile workshop known as ‘Junior Art’. The children used to play with play dough as they learned, while having fun, and relieved their energy at the same time. Soon, parents asked for having ‘Da3douka’ at their own homes, and that was how the idea of selling came up, back in 2013.

However, Afaf’s husband got sick, and she was forced to minimize her operating work in order to stay by his side at home. He, unfortunately, passed away in 2015 and did not live to see her succeed. Despite all what she went through, Afaf did not give up and wanted to pursue her dream. She strongly felt that her husband has always encouraged and motivated her to move on with her project, which was her dream since 2010. Her main challenge at that time was finding a matching fund! That did not stop her. She got her loan and started from home.

Being a specialist in Early Childhood Education, she believes that art is a form of education that enhances the necessary skills and confidence to meet life’s challenges. She developed ‘Da3douka‘ with the intention of helping kids develop their communication, socialization, and fine motor skills. Finally, she ends by saying that working with kids inspires her everyday!

8. Rania Wehbe – Engineering for Kids of Lebanon

To Rania’s delight the less than six months start up business ‘Engineering for Kids of Lebanon’ is growing fast and customers are more than satisfied with the outcome. The center brings STEM education to children in a fun and challenging way. In fact, STEM is relatively a new curriculum based on the idea of educating students in four specific disciplines – science, technology, engineering and mathematics – in an interdisciplinary and applied approach.

Currently ‘Engineering For Kids’ is operational in 30+ countries worldwide in addition to 35+ US states, and Rania has succeeded in bringing it over now to Lebanon! Their programs and classes stay current, meet strict safety requirements, actively engage kids both mentally and physically, and encourage them to think creatively and intelligently. They offer various fields of Engineering programs for boys and girls aged 4 to 14 years old divided in the following programs: Junior engineers (4-6 years old), Apprentice engineers (7-11 years old), and Master engineers (12-14 years old).

Being a working mother of three adorable girls has always been a main challenge in her life, and she has always struggled to manage. “Not to boast,” she states,”but as a perfectionist, I cannot afford compromises in either way.” Despite the challenge of finding the time while working a full-time job, she has always had this passion to build something through which she can contribute back to the society at large, and specifically to the education of children. She has realized that no matter what people do in their lives, they will always fall short of time, and it is up to each person to decide how busy she wants to be and define her role and contribution. In her case, she explains that she does a lot of planning to overcome this. That is why, you find her planning her weeks way ahead and up to the finest details. This keeps her alert and, to an extent, in control.

She explains that starting a new business is certainly challenging, and a lot of it has to do with how big of a risk appetite a person has. However, this argument is diluted when one truly believes in what she is doing. The excitement in what a person does helps in getting through all the challenges that one might face. She strongly believes that with enough faith in oneself and with an established motive, a person can succeed. After all, everyone should find out what triggers their inspiration. In her case, she enjoys reading a lot about successful business leaders, who really inspire her to achieve more. One of the inspiring things she has lately read and that is worth sharing was about a successful entrepreneur who plans his day on 5-minutes slots. To some that might sound aggressive, yet it is worth thinking of.

Last but not least, she explains that she owes a lot of what she has achieved to her husband – her partner for life. When the decision was taken earlier this year to launch their own business, the idea was not clear back then. But after extensive thought and research, she decided to take the ‘Engineering For Kids’ route, and bring these enrichment programs to the children in Lebanon. Her husband was very supportive, as they decided to get into it together. Luckily enough, they both share the same passion for educating their own children and inspire them.

She ends stating that they strongly believe that children deserve the opportunity to have such a unique experience. And as we speak, she informed me that they have just kicked off their operations out at their Center in Sodeco, Beirut. The plan, in the future is to expand to cover all regions of their beloved country, in an attempt to give all the children in different areas such a unique opportunity.

9. Shadi Khazei – Dan-Dee Designs – UAE

With the help of her two children, Shadi designed a product for water bottles to help children identify their water bottles from those of other children. The whole idea started in October 2016, but the first cap was finally created in March 2017. Currently, Shadi heads a design company in Duabi named Dan-Dee Designs.

The ‘Dan-Dee Caps, The Real Bottle Cap’ is a bottle cap that fits perfectly over the existing Water bottle caps. The inspiration for undertaking this project stemmed from her children’s frustration that they could not easily identify their water bottles, especially in large crowds, sports events or in birthday parties. That is how they worked on creating a unique cap that would be appealing to both children and adults. Until they finally developed and designed colorful and fun food safe silicone caps.

Along the way she faced hurdles which she was able to quickly overcome since there are many resources in Dubai that help budding entrepreneurs. For example, in the conception stage, she didn’t know where to begin and how to bring the idea to life. After some research, she found a work space in Dubai where she learnt about casting, design and mold making. There, and with the help of instructors, she was able to make a prototype of the caps. The biggest barrier, according to her, was obtaining a patent and registering a design. Again, through firms in Dubai who specialize in patent law this was possible. She found out that the best way to overcome obstacles is through perseverance.

Shadi adds that although their inspiration is to create fun and safe caps for kids, but as a mother, her aim is also make life a little easier for other mums. Because this creation solved a problem for her, she felt that it would be beneficial to others as well.

Those pretty and very practical designs can be seen on their website www.dandeecaps.com and on Instagram message as @dandeecaps.

Shadi concludes by explaining more about her current work where she is looking forward to creating new designs for the bottles which will appeal to all ages. At the same time, she is working on creating a website aimed for mothers who would like to go back to work full time, par time, or as a volunteer. The website will focus on helping them to land the job interviews.

In conclusion, I can say that I have been honored to have had this discussion with those fantastic business women. They all represent the strong will each woman possesses and how this will can be directed into a fruitful and inspiring future. I would like to take the opportunity to thank each and everyone one of them for participating in this project.

Please share this post on your social media as you can also be part of encouraging and empowering all the women out there!

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My Flower in the Desert

In the desert, when you were born,

You were so tiny,

I couldn’t even hear you moan.

I looked at you,

Not believing my eyes

‘Cause I’ve never held a baby of that size.

A tough preemie you were,

My determined and resilient girl.

A spirit with ultimate power

You bloomed into my Dahlia flower.

A lovely combination you are

Just like that burning star;

Hard and smooth as a golden pearl,

Your character enjoys any dare.

But also soft and filled with love

Your cuteness flutters up above.

I adore watching the sparkle in your eyes

As you ask, inquire, and analyze.

You also have that element of fun.

Sometimes playing a pun,

Other times crying out a giggle

And around you turn in a wiggle.

Books bring you joy,

Filled with stories you enjoy

‘Again’, you ask with delight

Ready to hear more every night.

I love how you care

Asking about your brothers’ welfare.

At the same time you boss them around

Stepping your foot firmly onto the ground.

I adore your determination

And I look at you with admiration.

You dance, laugh, and play

Cry, nag, tease and sway.

You chatter, talk, squeak and sing

And with all this you do bring,

Colorful emotions to my heart.

I so pray we would never part.

Your will to live and thrive,

Like that flower which has strived

Out of the perched dry sand

And blossoming proudly as you stand,

Is what makes me blessed, joyful

And forever and ever grateful!

Rania Hussant – September 2017

Photo credit; rachahallakphotography

Our Family Getaway; Tyre

Our family getaway in Tyre has left us with remarkable memories and learning experiences that were attained with pleasure. For our stay, we booked at the Al Yasmine Guest House and spent a lovely time there.

Al Yasmine Guest House: http://www.alyasmineguesthouse.com

We were sincerely touched with the warm welcome the staff provided us with. All five of our children felt free to explore the area, play around, and learn about certain animal behaviors. The whole setting of the resort takes you into a Mexican village where as a guest you are treated with generosity and hospitality.

As parents, we were longing for this tranquility and natural silence where the only sounds we could hear were the quacking of ducks, chirping of birds, and rustling of leaves. The greenery around with delicate colorful begonvillia plants scattered gracefully adds a heavenly lush to the whole scene.

The guest house offers many sportive activities that make a child and an adult enjoy their time together. There is a small playground for little children, a mini-golf, a tennis court, a ping pong table, a basketball hoop, a pool table, babyfoot, two pools, a double seat bicycle, and some horses. The twins were delighted as they fed the cute reindeers caressing them at any given opportunity. Finally, the most enjoyable activity for them was rowing the boat in the lake along the ducks and swans.

The Rooms:

We enjoyed an evening with the owner of the house who told us how, together with her husband, they have designed the rooms and the whole area to receive their children’s friends during the weekend and enjoy their stay together far from the hussle and bustle of the city Beirut. She even made sure not to include any Wi-Fi connection or TV service so one can really disconnect and profit from the peacefulness the House bestows.

On one side of the main house a number of rooms with ravishing mexican interiors are now accessible to the guests and our rooms were of no different. The cleanliness and honesty with which the employers work with are also remarkable. Little D lost her golden bracelet, and I was baffled when the housekeeper found it for us.

The food:

Al Yasmine Guest House offers a selection of a tasty and healthy Lebanese breakfast. In the evening guests have the choice to choose from the menu or have a delicious BBQ along with a selection of appetizing mezzah like fatoush, baked eggplants, spicy potatoes, and mutabal to name a few of my favorite.

Old Tyre:

Since I always aim at educating our children and have them attain general knowledge, we always make sure that we make any trip a learning opportunity. With this intention, we headed to the Necropolis El Bass in Tyre where we told them all about the rich history Lebanon has endured. From the Byzantium Era to the Romanian Vestiges, we walked along its colonaded road passing through whatever was left from those great dynasties.

We continued walking until we reached the huge impressive Hippodrome that used to seat 20000 spectators who gathered to watch the death-defying sport of chariot racing! Standing at the top of the steps, I felt I could hear their loud cheers and boisterous zest, but as I looked around reality hit me sharply knowing that such treasures are not taken care of. It is a shame to have such history stand alone, still with pride, but with a few who really appreciate it.

Along the road, and as we drove through the vast fields of fruit bearing trees, we pointed out to the children the different types that grew on the coast. It is a pleasure to see how even the twins could locate a banana tree and the boys identify the avocado tree!

As a mother, I always long to plan such trips with my family and I care about them learning something new out of it. Pushing them into appreciating nature, history, and be able to spend quality time together are challenging these days, so when it is done with fun, it lives in their memories forever.

I am glad that we have chosen the Al Yasmine Guest House as our relaxing getaway and would like to thank all the staff members again for making us feel that we were at home!

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My Fourth Son…

It is indeed incredibly amazing how each and every child has a special place in a mom’s heart. When I had my first boy, I thought I could never love any other being as much as I loved him. 

I was wrong!

Soon enough, came our second one, and that love increased doubling with more joy and pride. I could feel my heart swelling up with attachment and affection towards both of them. I was delighted to have given my first boy a lifetime buddy to hang out with, play with, fight with, and do whatever boys do together. Then sooner than expecting, the third one proudly arrived bringing much charm with his captivating smile and easy going character to our family. He quickly formed a special bond with his brothers, and soon they constituted a clan.

What a bless, I would tell myself!
AND I thought it ended there; a satisfied mom of three adorable boys.

Again I was wrong!

As our fourth boy and little girl were born, I was deeply concerned about him being ignored by everyone. After all everybody was waiting for the girl – even us as parents!

I was afraid of failing between them, focusing more on her needs, and losing it with all of the responsibilities I suddenly had. It is true that we have always wished for a girl, but I did not want him to be treated any differently than his brothers or her for the matter.

To ease my worries, I read books and articles related to twins, sibling rivalry, and whatever came across my way. I also had a full supportive team at home where we discussed our worries and concerns. 

However, what really helped me the most was my fourth boy himself.  I will never forget his looks at the age of 32 weeks, only a few days after they were born. Just by looking at him peeking at me through the incubator, I could easily tell that he has come with a unique character, just like the others, and was more than ready to prove himself. It kind of soothed me seeing his determination at a very young stage in his extremely early life.

An independent little fellow who insists on doing things on his own is the main characteristic of our little Mr. R. As I observe him at play, I enjoy his jubilant attitude and carefree spirit. He not only enjoys kisses and cuddles, but asks for them as well whenever he feels like it. I also love his thirst to knowledge and learning where he asks me to work together on different age related activities. I adore his attachment towards his sister and brothers, and his comic side when he enjoys a joke with them. 

It does not really matter if you have an only child or five of them. It does not matter if they are all girls or all boys. It does not matter the order they come in. What matters is the love, the innocence, the purity, and transparency they bring. Our way of reacting to these needs and our approval form the basics of a child’s character in the future. This reminds me of what my dearest grandmother used to tell us, ‘Raise your children with love and affection.’

So how much can a mom’s heart equally love? Well I would say definitely infinite!

On a Bench…

The picture below was taken from my last trip to London at The Rose Garden. I was inspired by the beauty and the mood of the whole setting. Engulfed with these sensations, I wrote the following poem;

On a bench I sat as I shed my tears
Surrounded with sadness and fear.
Unaware of the beauty around me,
With shattered hopes, I couldn’t see!
I was blinded, distracted, and alone
I felt cold to the bone!

By nature, I refuse weakness and defeat
Yet today I broke down at my feet.
I felt tired, drained, and stuck.
I was in a dilemma with no luck…
A soft breeze then brushed my hair and I slowly breathed in the cool air.
A small reminder to what really counts
Life and its difficulties I need to surmount.
In a second, everything could be gone
And the whole world will continue to move on.
Observing the allurement, I turned around
Nature with its beauty and solid ground.
Yellow roses with soft petals hugged me
A comfortable throne they’ve given me.
Bouquets of flowers in full bloom
Perfection of a secret perfume…
My mood suddenly changed
Bringing peace and harmony in exchange.
Mother nature a sanctuary of wisdom
A resort to cheerfulness, to optimism…
So on that bench I sat with a smile on my face
And all that dark sadness I was able to erase!