My Fourth Son…

It is indeed incredibly amazing how each and every child has a special place in a mom’s heart. When I had my first boy, I thought I could never love any other being as much as I loved him. 

I was wrong!

Soon enough, came our second one, and that love increased doubling with more joy and pride. I could feel my heart swelling up with attachment and affection towards both of them. I was delighted to have given my first boy a lifetime buddy to hang out with, play with, fight with, and do whatever boys do together. Then sooner than expecting, the third one proudly arrived bringing much charm with his captivating smile and easy going character to our family. He quickly formed a special bond with his brothers, and soon they constituted a clan.

What a bless, I would tell myself!
AND I thought it ended there; a satisfied mom of three adorable boys.

Again I was wrong!

As our fourth boy and little girl were born, I was deeply concerned about him being ignored by everyone. After all everybody was waiting for the girl – even us as parents!

I was afraid of failing between them, focusing more on her needs, and losing it with all of the responsibilities I suddenly had. It is true that we have always wished for a girl, but I did not want him to be treated any differently than his brothers or her for the matter.

To ease my worries, I read books and articles related to twins, sibling rivalry, and whatever came across my way. I also had a full supportive team at home where we discussed our worries and concerns. 

However, what really helped me the most was my fourth boy himself.  I will never forget his looks at the age of 32 weeks, only a few days after they were born. Just by looking at him peeking at me through the incubator, I could easily tell that he has come with a unique character, just like the others, and was more than ready to prove himself. It kind of soothed me seeing his determination at a very young stage in his extremely early life.

An independent little fellow who insists on doing things on his own is the main characteristic of our little Mr. R. As I observe him at play, I enjoy his jubilant attitude and carefree spirit. He not only enjoys kisses and cuddles, but asks for them as well whenever he feels like it. I also love his thirst to knowledge and learning where he asks me to work together on different age related activities. I adore his attachment towards his sister and brothers, and his comic side when he enjoys a joke with them. 

It does not really matter if you have an only child or five of them. It does not matter if they are all girls or all boys. It does not matter the order they come in. What matters is the love, the innocence, the purity, and transparency they bring. Our way of reacting to these needs and our approval form the basics of a child’s character in the future. This reminds me of what my dearest grandmother used to tell us, ‘Raise your children with love and affection.’

So how much can a mom’s heart equally love? Well I would say definitely infinite!

Back In Time!

Twelve years ago, exactly around this time of the year, my hubby and I landed in Abu Dhabi International Airport.  We have left France for a one year contract, and we were so excited about the journey ahead of us. With my fully grown belly I was totally aware that I would not be able to travel or make any major moves as I graciously moved into my third trimester of my first pregnancy. I was young, energetic, and full of delight to start a new page in the new short chapters of my life as a married woman. 
After living for two years in France, I was homesick and I knew that Abu Dhabi will compensate for all the loneliness, solitude, and inner struggles I passed through the day I left my family, relatives, and hometown to start a new stage with the man of my life!
To add on top of that I was eagerly anticipating the moment I would meet my little baby boy. 
Funnily enough I was really anxious about the delivery and the medical services provided, especially because we did not have a lot of options at that time. Still I couldn’t but surrender to what fate has designed for us and had to go with the flow.
Every single year since then, we would think that we would soon return. Looking back on those years I am gratefully aware of how much Abu Dhabi has given us; and to that I am thankful.

It is obvious that there is definitely no ‘perfect’ place as the word implies.  We all get tired of our exasperating routine, our never ending responsibilities, and our poisoning uncertainties.  However, we can always find a  way out that directs us to meet other goals and build up on previous experiences.
During those years, I have experienced being both a stay at home mom and a working mom. With both roles, Abu Dhabi has and still provides me with all the basic needs, luxurious facilities, and abundant time to live and enjoy my family.
Abu Dhabi endorsed me with a cocoon, a home, and a sanctuary that engulfs us with tranquility and peace of mind. With its cosmopolitan regime, it offered me unique opportunities in meeting supportive friends, amazing colleagues, and great people who taught me a lot. It even increased our circle with close and far relatives from different parts of the world.
Moreover, it continues to give our children educational and recreational opportunities that hopefully will open new horizons later in their future.
The beauty of its desert and the blue azure that proudly engulfs it, make our children appreciate nature with all its perfection and flawlessness.
Last but not least, our presence here was the main reason behind having our beloved five whom we might not have even considered if we were still living in France.

I am certain that each family and every person who had lived and still lives here has a great owe to everything they have achieved. Those who came fifty years ago and those who have been here for a few years, leave with a special imprint in their hearts deciphering the unique beauty of the Arabian life. We find ourselves enjoying our life, our difficulties, and our bewilderment all at the same time. This is how we rejoice in loving this ‘home’ and we are bound to it for all eternity.

I felt the urge and need to express my appreciation and thank our lucky stars for having us live in the splendid UAE. Without it we wouldn’t have been bestowed with all those blessings.
Would like to hear from your experiences as moms living in Abu Dhabi and how fruitfully living here has been on you and your families. 

April 27, 2005

A Mom’s Kinda Vacation 

“How did you spend the spring vacation?” is the first question people ask on your first day back to work. We usually travel and spend the vacation at my parent’s house or they come over to spend some time together.

Unfortunately, this spring break we could not meet, and I realized that in fact I did not have a break in the real sense of the word!
I mean how could I when I have five to keep entertained and busy for two complete weeks? To add on top of that I have different ages with somehow different interests.
As a result, I found myself juggling between play dates, meeting friends, and arranging activities for them. It was mostly fun and we have really enjoyed those moments, but I haven’t really had the ‘me time’ pause! Those few moments where I wished I could just recharge my batteries to keep going with the same zest and tranquilty.
I somehow took a break from physically going to school very early every morning. However, I had to pass a few nights preparing lesson plans and working on some corrections. Unlike other professions, a teacher brings piles and piles of schoolwork along. You do not just leave your office and forget about all those obligations. That is why as a working mom I had a semi interlude.
On the other hand, we all agree that being a mother is a 24/7 job with no vacations or real downtime unless the grandparents are around – which is exactly what I missed having this Spring.
During this short vacation, I found myself reminiscing over my young age when I had no worries or responsibilities. When I could drink my coffee and enjoy its warmth till the last drop. Or when I used to relish eating my food, savoring the taste of each and every bite. Not to mention sleeping until I got tired of being in bed!
At the same time, having my beloved children around me fills my heart and soul with life. They are my joy and pride. Despite the fatigue and exhaustion motherhood brings, I would not have imagined my days without them.  They are a blessing and I am lucky to be bestowed with such a bliss.
Like every other mother, I would wish to have a break and escape from my duties every once in a while. Nevertheless, once alone I would find myself thinking of them, feeling them, and longing to be with them again. Those never ending ironic notions every mom experiences where she has to balance her sanity and rejoice in being a mom as much as she can.
So how was my kind of vacation? Well it was filled with happy special moments, some arguments, laughter, a passing by sickness, lots of chores, silliness, game playing, partying with the kiddos, homework, and tons of action! Just to mention a few of any other day in a diary of a mom, and to that I am always and forever grateful!
So mommies how was your spring break? 
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That’s To You, My Child!

My dear child that’s to you, so you know what life might do!
You might meet those who nag
And others that might carry your bag…
Some are cross and make you dare
Others would simply show that they care.
A group might lie
And could even leave you to die,
While honest ones will still appear
To help make the pain disappear…
Yet true friends are hard to find
So choose well and don’t be blind…
Be aware of pits and walls
Make sure you avoid the falls.
But don’t forget that mistakes are good
If they are well taken and understood.
After all life is a game
As you grow, it won’t be the same…
Play it well, do your part
But reserve your golden heart!
Everyday there is something new
A lesson, a truth, a reality to view
I promise to help you with all my might,
But it is God who will open your inner sight.
Laugh, create, imagine and dream
Play, dance, run and scream
Be polite, help those in need
Seek the truth, learn and read!
I love you, you are my child
And I’ll always be your guide
To help you when in need or in pain
To happily share your triumphs and gain….
I can write a million word
To assure you’ll successfully face that extraordinary world…
Before one day you depart and leave to explore,
Taking my aching heart with you out of the door!
But that is life,
With its beauty and its hardship which cuts like a knife…
These are my words before we part,
But for now I’ll enjoy you with all my heart….
So that’s to her to him and to you
That’s to all the five of you!

Rania HUSSANT

 

Motherhood 

You suffer a lot of pain yet you embrace it with a smile,

You conquer defeat yet you hold your head up high.

You sacrifice your youth yet you are more than content,

You spend all night awake yet you find pleasure in it in the end.

But the marvelous thing about you is the ability to forget;

The pain, the labor, the tears, and the defeat,

While you joyfully embrace and shield significant memories of your most cherished  ones.

Then they grow and your worries increase,

Your anxieties inflate, swelling painfully in your chest,

Your dreams get shattered, 

And you wonder if you are doing it right!

Motherhood, you drive me crazy.

You make high,

You make me low.

You hit me hard,

Then you caress me ever so gently

Stroking into my hair, 

Giving me sweet attention and endless care.

Motherhood, you twist me and turn me around

You harshly crush my hopes, then pin me arrogantly to the ground.

Motherhood, you ignite in me flames of happiness and distress.

You teach me about love and forgiveness presented in a neat mess.

You unveil truths I dare not face,

You make me experience a sweet torture I never even thought I could bear…

And yet you have blessed me with the miracle of being that mom…

A mom with unlimited ardency, 

A mom with a strong will to move on,

A mom whose force and power could move mountians,

A mom who does a lot of mishaps and mistakes as she fights against fatigue and distress,

A mom whose responsibility sometimes exceeds her limits, yet she insists on reaching that far realm.

Motherhood, thank you for all this unique beauty, the incomprehensible pain, the bewitching sorrow, and the fascinating delight you bring along this journey…

May we do it right!

How My Mom Inspired Me

Whether we like it or not, every girl takes after her mom. Even if we think we do not, but by time we see ourselves becoming more and more like her. Some of us, if not most, feel proud about it. Even if we know that she, like us has done mistakes while raising her children, she still is our idol. No matter whether we feel that we resemble our moms or not, they have definitely inspired us in one way or the other.

Not because she is my mother, but as a person I came to admire her even more the day I got married and left to live in France. I used to tell her that I could see myself through her as I faced the challenges and responsibilities this new stage in life gave me.
She was and still is my guide, my support, the base behind my patience, my ambition, my strength,  and the first person who taught me what unconditional love is. I was not aware of these remarkable attributes when I was young and thought I owned the world. She has seen in me that passion towards writing and she kept encouraging me to write.

Her words still echo in my mind as she endlessly urged me to write about my experiences, insisting how joyful and satisfied I’d feel once I do that. She was more that right!

To encourage me even more towards my literacy education, she used to proudly say that I am the flower of the house amongst the mathematicians and doctors around me. She never mentioned how bad I was in Maths, and how illogical Physics was to me! Let alone Chemistry ….

My mama inspired me in many ways, and encouraging me to write is only a minor part of all that she has given me. But look how significant that has been on my life!

Through writing she has helped me reflect upon my problems, release my tension, experience happiness, be connected to the given moment, and mostly find the real me inside me!

We cannot thank our moms enough for what they did, what they do, and what they will do for us…  I am grateful for every second of my life for having her as my mom!

Looking forward to hearing how your wonderful moms have inspired you…
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