About Life, special occasions

40, 5, And More!

By human nature, people all over the world tend to mark certain milestones according to age. For example, parents celebrate their child’s first birthday where they spend a lot of time and effort to signify this special occasion. We, then, move to the two digit number ten. From there, we look at the age of thirteen, with anticipation, and the cycle continues as we move along the years.

Turning forty is one of those notable occurrences in a person’s life. It is that four decade phase where a lot of contemplation and reflection hit a person who still feels very young, yet realises major modifications in both her mental and physical growth.

Personally, the minute I realised I was approaching the forties, I admit I was a bit anxious about the transformation those coming years will bring. At first, it weighed heavily on me, thinking that I cannot do anything about it and that annoyed me.

Physically, my body has changed. Even if it is minor, one can easily notice some white hair strands showing from my thinned hair, a scarred belly from my last delivery with the twins, and a few wrinkles that have engraved their marks around my eyes and neck.

But guess what? It is just another birthday, and apprehension is not something I easily submit to. That is why, it did not take me long to realise that it is just a mindset which I can control. Whatever I make myself believe in will definitely have its effect on me. So why don’t I attract the beauty of this age into my being?

To all those who really know me, I have never resrtriced myself to a number, and age is after all a number. Besides, I have never had much interest in Math.

That is why, I perceive age as an achievement. Age is wisdom acquired throughout the years. Age is maturity. Age is continuous learning. Age is a gaining process.

Despite that, I cannot totally strip myself of those numbers which, in a way, have a control on our daily lives, so I use them as a significant reference in my existence.

Coming to this point, I wonder what I have established in the past forty years! One of my greatest achievements is having my own family of seven which is composed of a beloved and caring father and five boistrous and healthy children. To that I am infinitely grateful. It also happens that at the age of forty, I am celebrating fifteen years of marriage where we took the vows to love, protect and support each other through thick and thin. On top of that, at forty, I feel younger than when I was a teenager. Being the woman who eats well and exercises whenever I can, are what help me maintain a healthy lifestyle. It is no secret that I have avoided consuming specific foods and drinks, years ago, to which the results I have reaped now. Finally, my profession as a teacher has helped me in applying a fixed and well maintained routine which facilities my life being a working mom of five.

If forty is considered to be the middle age of a life cycle, then hopefully there is still a lot to be acquired and learned. With this perspective in mind, one would worry less, appreciate the past moments, and grasp new opportunities to come. Although I would not be able to predict what the second part of my life will bring, I want to embrace the coming years in open arms, knowing that it will definitely serve in my growth. Being the positive person that I am, I would want to continue finding beauty in life and live the given experiences to the fullest. I hope that with whatever maturity I have gained so far, I will be able to face any unexpected obstacles which might arise, especially that now we are in the process of starting a new chapter in our lives.

So dear forty, I welcome you into my life where I hope you will find contentment and be wise. I hope you will be proud of the decisions I will have to take. I hope you will add patience and gratefulness into my soul. I hope you will serve in fostering more kindness and acceptance in my thoughts. I hope for a calmer me. Finally, I hope you give me abundant strength in my journey as a mother, wife, sister, daughter, friend and educator where I could actually be present for all those who need me!

About Life, Parenting, Poems by me

A Poem To Dad

Today, I dedicate a special poem to you my Dad! Because it is too emotional and it reflects a painful truth, I was a bit hesitant about posting it. At the same time, I cannot but honor the man who went out of his way just to make his family live a life where they had everything they asked for. Father’s Day presented me with this occasion where I grabbed my chance to voice his attritubes to the world and simply glorify his presence amongst us!

No matter what life brings along,

To me you are still a hero and strong.

You defy your sickness and disease,

As you’ll always be the one with expertise!

I have always looked up to you with admiration,

You as the leader, back in Badanah station.

Filled with life and goodness,

Served and healed patients with sureness.

Your generosity was devoured by everyone,

From the nearest people and as far as the sun.

Everyone looked up to you –

Some with envy and some with abjure!

Some even took advantage of that,

Though you knew, and forgave with all your heart.

I have always felt proud and fiery,

To have you and call you my daddy…

The distances between us have formed a gap –

Me with my busy life and you stuck in a trap.

It breaks my heart to be far away,

Alas! I wish there was a better way…

Like you, one day we will age too

There is nothing that we could do.

So I feel lost and at dismay

As the months drift away.

This morning I clasped my hands,

And dreamt of far away lands:

Lands of pure Love, Health, and Peace,

A place where we could all just be…

On father’s day I write to you,

Not only to say that I love you,

But to give you strength and conviction,

To brighten your day with glorification.

About Life, events

Beloved Abu Dhabi – Good Bye

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I dedicate this last post from Abu Dhabi to each and everyone person I have met throughout those years:

Thirteen years ago, on a warm Spring day, I stepped foot in Abu Dhabi for the very first time. I was so excited to turn the few pages of anguish and start with a new chapter in my life. I have always embraced change, no matter how challenging it might be, and this time I could not contain my happiness and excitement. I gently rubbed my swollen tight tummy, feeling my first child kick me on the inside, as if he gave me a sign of approval and contentment. He could feel my delight, and he was satisfied as much as I was.

My life back in charming Paris, was not like one would imagine. Everyday living in Europe is not actually a luxury and requires a lot of patience, effort, and endurance -which I was not psychologically prepared to – especially when I got pregnant. Coming to think about it now, I wonder if, back then, I was still inexperienced enough to deal with life’s toughness.

Abu Dhabi welcomed me with open arms. It gave me a new essence to life. It sheltered me. It assisted me. It helped me grow. It offered me learning opportunities. It provided me with many occasions to examine new experiences and meet amazing people throughout those years. In addition to establishing a family of seven, I was also able to pursue my career life. I had all the help and support which I could not afford back in France. All of this has actually collaborated in what I achieved today, starting from my children, my work as an Elementary school teacher, and reaching to my current blogging world which is not restricted to any physical distance. This truth somehow alleviates me knowing that I will continue to reach out to all of you through my journey as the helicoptermommy – but this time from a new destination!

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After thirteen years, which of course had their challenges, failures, and successes, my family and I are leaving the UAE (United Arab Emirates) and heading to Muscat, Oman. As much as we are excited about the favorable changes we are going to experience, it breaks my heart to leave behind, family members, precious friends, dear students, close colleagues, supportive parents, and fellow like-minded bloggers and followers I have met and worked with in this part of the universe.

Thirteen years make history! As a matter of fact, what we have witnessed and experienced cannot be summarized in a few lines. Still, I can decipher a few unique moments which I have gained by being part of Abu Dhabi’s society. I am grateful for knowing each and every person I have met along those years. After all, I strongly believe that I always learn something new about myself by knowing others. As I look back, I realize how lucky I am to have had the chance of making friends from different parts of the world. Each one of them taught me about a different culture, a certain norm, and a cosmopolitan vision, making me more open to humanity with all its homogeneous and heterogeneous compositions. All of that taught me to accept people the way they are, and I soon realized that there was no room left for any judgement. We are all humans under the same sky battling against certain struggles and celebrating glorious triumphs. We are all humans who can give a lot of goodness to the world through kindness and acceptance.

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And maybe because giving and goodness have a rippling effect, my heart was filled with gratitude for receiving endless touching messages, compassionate phone calls, teary hugs and emotional farewell gatherings for the past weeks! How could I not feel that gnawing pain twisting inside my chest when I know that I am leaving part of me here?

If I send my gratitude to each and every one of you, whether we are close or far, I would drown under the heaviness of its intensity. My dear readers, followers, supporters, and confidants I cannot thank you enough for helping me become the mother, wife, sister, and woman I am today.

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Yes, I know that very soon I will pack our stuff in taped boxes! Yes, I know I will physically depart! Yes, I also know that I will close the door to our home very soon! Yes, life without us here will move on. Yes, I am experiencing different emotions! Yes, I might be in denial! Yes, I know the truth to all of that, but I also know that all of you and Abu Dhabi will remain in my heart forever!

So for now good bye, to you and good bye to Abu Dhabi…. but the journey continues because ‘every ending has a new beginning!”

About Life, special occasions

Featured on @innerseed

Thank you @innerseed for featuring me on your website www.innerseeduae.com/mom-blog-in-abu-dhabi where I was able to share, as a mom blogger living in Abu Dhabi, how I have and still support the community.

 

Mom Blog In Abu Dhabi

When we first arrived to Abu Dhabi, thirteen years ago, we were welcomed with warmth, fortune, and peace of mind. I was pregnant then, with my first child, and I thought that we would be staying for just a year before going back to France. Little did I know that we will be blessed with five children along the many facilities that Abu Dhabi provided us with. We always tend to forget that no matter what we plan for, fate simply knows better and leads us towards more suitable goals.

I have spent the first six years as a SAHM (Stay At Home Mom) with my three boys where I used to spend my time engaging them in educational activities, outdoor play, and homemade art. Despite the daily challenges I have faced as a mom, I tried my best to enjoy their presence. Sometimes, I was even criticized by the society for dedicating my life solely for them, especially because as a couple, we barely went out for late social occasions.

At that time, I was satisfied with my daily life, yet at the same time, it was demanding. I used to have many moments where I wished I could just escape the endless burdens of being a mom. I admit that I missed my job, and I longed to go back in order to build my profession as a teacher. However, it was clear that it was not the time for that, yet!

Once the boys started going to school, I got the opportunity to teach there too. Fate was leading me into the right direction, and I took this opportunity with great pleasure. It was tough! Balancing three buoyant boys and work had a toll on me, yet I was mentally content and gratified.

Soon, my social life started to expand and many people started to call me for advice or for some simple information regarding parenting issues. I suddenly became the ‘Go to Person’ to a number of women in the society who were seeking some relief and assistance. I would listen to their worries, calm their fears, and counsel their apprehensions. I did it with pleasure, and it contributed in filling my soul with gratitude and peace. Moreover, it helped me mature and grow out of my boundaries. I slowly started to accept people as they are – with no judgment. In fact, I soon realized that I do not have the right to criticize anyone as long as I still battle with my own flaws, and being perfect is actually absurd!

Three years later, I find out that I was pregnant with twins! We were astounded by the news and felt overwhelmed by the upcoming hefty responsibility. There again, I had to resign from work and get myself physically and psychologically ready to take care of my, all of sudden, big family of 7!

It was then and there that my mother and sister strongly encouraged me to start writing about my experience as a mom of five through blogging. After all, I have always been fascinated with words and the amazing effect they have on me. My blog actually equips me with the weapon I need to address and assist women through the articles I write. Through my words I draw pictures, release my stress, reflect on my worries, and address an audience. Through my words, I reach out to all the women out there, with an empowering message to help them attain a positive attitude and be in peace with themselves whatever their social status is. That was how the journey of thehelicoptermommy started. To support my blog and my ideas, I continue to initiate and plan events that are dedicated for women in general and moms in specific. In all the events, there are always professional speakers who usually engage in talks about women’s health, moms’ mindset, and even in fun activities like baking and cooking. By organizing all these occasions, I am able to support a wider scope of women all over the world and reach out to most of their wishes and needs.

It is remarkable how much I have acquired from the wonderful people I have met and worked with along my blogging experience. With every event I organized or attended, I always come up with a better version of myself, and that by itself is a bliss.

Finally, it is funny how by having a big family myself, my life was put in a better perspective. Despite all the encounters that I have faced, and still confront, I am currently able to manage my daily life, my blog, and my career. I always declare that had I been in any other country, I would not have been able to achieve what I have accomplished so far. I believe that the growth I have reached is reciprocal because by serving the community, I am actually filling my inner seed with love and ardor.

 

Blurb: Rania HUSANT is a working mother of five and an aspiring writer. The link to her blog @thehelicoptermommy can be found on Instagram and Facebook

www.thehelicoptermommy.wordpress.com

 

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Photo credit: @nad_naddoun

 

About Life, Parenting

Social Media Exposure

I am sure that many of you have noticed that I do not fully expose my children’s faces on social media. Funnily enough, I even get criticised for not doing so. Generally speaking, people tend to jump into conclusions; they assume that my decision is based on fear of having the evil eye on us!

To be honest, some critics make me smile but thanks to my blogging I would like to share with you the main reasons as why I keep their pictures somehow discreet.

Every time I post something related to them, I ask for their premision. I respect their decision because I totally honor their privacy, and I support their judgement.

I believe that this is one of the ways I am able to teach them about the importance of privacy and agency. I also want them to learn how to deal with social media which starts at home and by setting a midway in everything they do in life. For instance, the elder two boys have just started using What’s App, so my duty as a mom is to set the good example. Otherwise, they would not know what kind of pictures to send and with whom they can share their private information. I am actually making them aware of the dangers of the online world and teaching them how to deal with it with confidence and respect. They need to know that any picture posted online does not belong to them anymore and can be shared/edited/photoshopped in any way. I have already tackled this issue in a previous post which you can read about in the link below:

http://www.thehelicoptermommy.wordpress.com/2015/03/09/stranger-danger-the-online-ghost/?preview=true

We are fortunate to be living in Abu Dhabi, and I thank God every single day that we reside in such a safe place. Still, during my recent years of blogging, I have had two scary incidents due to the fact that I shared our whereabouts on social media.

After all, we don’t actually know what this openiness to the world will lead us to in the future. I would definitely not want my blog to be the reason behind any misfortune.

We need to remember that we never know who in the world is watching us and learning about our every move. Don’t we all teach our children about ‘stranger danger’ in real life? Why would I want to put my children under the observation of any danger caused by a stranger from the virtual world?

Moreover, I have always believed that the idea of following a certain trend does not necessary have to be correct. So if everybody is doing it, then I don’t need to do the same. It is not that I am against anyone or criticising other people’s options. It simply does not suit me to have my family pictures open to the public. Through my words and articles people could actually visualize our lives, and that is what blogging is all about.

Interestingly though, by not having my five being fully exposed on social media, it becomes more difficult for me to find appropriate and authentic photos to share. At the same time, it makes my work unique and fit to my style of living.

Since my feed is genuine and sincere, I felt it essential to highlight these issues and help spread awareness about the online ghost whom we need to keep in mind everytime we post a photo of our precious children.

I would really appreciate your thoughts on that and would love to hear the way you help your children deal with the online world.

About Life, Parenting, Poems by me

To Moms of Boys and Girls

Today’s mother’s day post is dedicated to moms of boys and girls alike. Since we need to empower both genders and guide them towards the right direction, it is our duty as mothers to work on building a strong foundation for each. For humanity to survive we need to pass this message over to the coming generations. So here you go;

On mother’s day I address this to you

To moms of boys and girls too.

We need to empower them both

With calmness and maturity throughout their growth.

A mom can teach her son about appreciation and respect

And how women view things in a wide aspect.

She can help him realise and understand,

That a woman is his helping hand.

She can befriend him and make him aware,

That with compassion, understanding and care,

He can build a solid ground –

And true love can be found.

A girl can learn about patience and poise.

To be able to face life and its toils.

From her mother she can attain

Dedication, persistence and overcome any pain.

Along with him she can grow,

And hand in hand they will both glow.

She would share her dreams along

As they dance to their favorite song.

Hand in hand they will empower

Their strengths and stamina to bloom like a flower…

After all one could not do without the other…

Men and women do complete and compliment each other.

So to the dear moms out there,

It is our duty and under our care

That we raise harmony between him and her.

Teach them to accept and analyse,

Not to look at the other with despise.

Have them support each other’s welfare,

In order to maintain a healthy affair

And make their adult life become smoother.

We would also serve the generations that follow,

By raising children who are confident and not shallow.

That is why to really celebrate today,

We should stop and not only pray!

But we need to be present,

And guide them through,

Trust me, there is a lot that we can do…

We need to practice honesty and explain,

How life could be a serious game;

If played well, they will both gain –

And if not, the future would never be the same!

About Life, special occasions

To the Woman Who…

To the woman who is now a grandmother and has worked hard all her life until she has finally come to her retirement stage. She who has raised her children and is now able to simply be present in the given moment. She who has ripened along the years and became the wise woman people refer to. She who patiently guides others and calms the fears of the younger generations… I salute her because she has struggled!

To the woman who is now a mother and who daily sheds tears of defeat because she thinks she is not up to the standard. She who holds all the worries of the world on her shoulders. She who tries to tend to her endless duties juggling work and motherhood at the same time. She who hides her fears as she wants to give the impression that everything is under control. That mother who might wish she could escape from those years and wants to fast forward her life because she thinks she will finally have some peace of mind. It could also be that other mother who feels she is missing out on her social and professional life simply because she wants to be with her child….. I salute her because she has struggled!

To the woman who is now a first time mom. She who feels that someone has pulled the carpet from under her feet and made her life stumble into pieces. She who silently observes the physical damage caused by the stretch marks that now smudge her body. That first time mom who is lost in the dark shadows of postpartum depression feeling guilty because she simply doesn’t understand how she can deal with all the craziness happening in her life…. I salute her because she has struggled!

To the woman who is now an expecting mother and feels swollen, heavy, and tired. She who wants to get over with the delivery and warmly hold her baby against her. She who might not be aware of the pain she will go through. She who wearily walks by feeling unhappy – despite her excitement- about all the body changes she is experiencing… I salute her because she has struggled!

To the woman who has never been able to become pregnant and experience the magical beauty of feeling her unborn child within her womb. She who has sobbed in sorrow everytime she knew she missed her chance of getting pregnant. She who longed to have that child to cuddle, caress and embrace with love and affection…. I salute her because she has struggled!

To the woman who has lost a child, a friend, a parent, or a partner. She who might have cursed fate for choosing her above the others. She who will never understand why she had to pass through such a horrendous experience. That woman who then pulls herself up, strengthens her faith, and just moves on. She who is filled with courage, firmness, and power soon realises that life goes on. With a broken heart and shattered dreams she also carries on… I salute her because she has struggled!

To the woman who is now a wife. She who has just argued with her husband thinking he doesn’t understand her needs. She who wonders why she even thought of tying her whole life and happiness to a man. She who still has dreams and ambitions which she thinks have evaporated into thin air. She might not know that through communication, one day she will get there… I salute her because she has struggled!

To the woman who has not yet met her lifetime partner and wishes she could live a love story one-day. She who still dreams of walking down the aisle with a charming man at her side. She who might be struggling with weight, personal, or even psychological issues… I salute her because she has struggled!

To the woman who might have been neglected and criticised by the society due to a certain incident. She who had to carry the blame of others. She who had to face those challenges on her own. She who had fingers pointed at her… I salute her because she has struggled!

To the little girl who is mesmerized in her own world. She who plays the different roles of a woman as she grows. She who thinks of fairy tales and dreams of rides on glittery unicorns. She who fantasizes about dreamlands and flutters around the house like butterflies. She who stands firmly to the ground speaking of her likes and interests… I ask her to find that beautiful woman inside. Find her strength, tackle her weaknesses, come over her struggles, fill in her self esteem, swarm in the beauty of womanhood, and not hinder her power to the hassles of life.

It is high time that we learn to support our fellow women. Learn to avoid negative criticism. Learn to spread positivity. Learn to be non-judgemental. Learn to accept the other!

After all, we all have our imperfections, our pains, and our apprehensions. As I have grown from that little girl into motherhood, I have learned a lot about us; women.

The least thing we would want is conviction! That is why, for International Women’s Day I salute each and every woman out there, and ask for transparency and empowerment!