My Fourth Son…

It is indeed incredibly amazing how each and every child has a special place in a mom’s heart. When I had my first boy, I thought I could never love any other being as much as I loved him. 

I was wrong!

Soon enough, came our second one, and that love increased doubling with more joy and pride. I could feel my heart swelling up with attachment and affection towards both of them. I was delighted to have given my first boy a lifetime buddy to hang out with, play with, fight with, and do whatever boys do together. Then sooner than expecting, the third one proudly arrived bringing much charm with his captivating smile and easy going character to our family. He quickly formed a special bond with his brothers, and soon they constituted a clan.

What a bless, I would tell myself!
AND I thought it ended there; a satisfied mom of three adorable boys.

Again I was wrong!

As our fourth boy and little girl were born, I was deeply concerned about him being ignored by everyone. After all everybody was waiting for the girl – even us as parents!

I was afraid of failing between them, focusing more on her needs, and losing it with all of the responsibilities I suddenly had. It is true that we have always wished for a girl, but I did not want him to be treated any differently than his brothers or her for the matter.

To ease my worries, I read books and articles related to twins, sibling rivalry, and whatever came across my way. I also had a full supportive team at home where we discussed our worries and concerns. 

However, what really helped me the most was my fourth boy himself.  I will never forget his looks at the age of 32 weeks, only a few days after they were born. Just by looking at him peeking at me through the incubator, I could easily tell that he has come with a unique character, just like the others, and was more than ready to prove himself. It kind of soothed me seeing his determination at a very young stage in his extremely early life.

An independent little fellow who insists on doing things on his own is the main characteristic of our little Mr. R. As I observe him at play, I enjoy his jubilant attitude and carefree spirit. He not only enjoys kisses and cuddles, but asks for them as well whenever he feels like it. I also love his thirst to knowledge and learning where he asks me to work together on different age related activities. I adore his attachment towards his sister and brothers, and his comic side when he enjoys a joke with them. 

It does not really matter if you have an only child or five of them. It does not matter if they are all girls or all boys. It does not matter the order they come in. What matters is the love, the innocence, the purity, and transparency they bring. Our way of reacting to these needs and our approval form the basics of a child’s character in the future. This reminds me of what my dearest grandmother used to tell us, ‘Raise your children with love and affection.’

So how much can a mom’s heart equally love? Well I would say definitely infinite!

Back In Time!

Twelve years ago, exactly around this time of the year, my hubby and I landed in Abu Dhabi International Airport.  We have left France for a one year contract, and we were so excited about the journey ahead of us. With my fully grown belly I was totally aware that I would not be able to travel or make any major moves as I graciously moved into my third trimester of my first pregnancy. I was young, energetic, and full of delight to start a new page in the new short chapters of my life as a married woman. 
After living for two years in France, I was homesick and I knew that Abu Dhabi will compensate for all the loneliness, solitude, and inner struggles I passed through the day I left my family, relatives, and hometown to start a new stage with the man of my life!
To add on top of that I was eagerly anticipating the moment I would meet my little baby boy. 
Funnily enough I was really anxious about the delivery and the medical services provided, especially because we did not have a lot of options at that time. Still I couldn’t but surrender to what fate has designed for us and had to go with the flow.
Every single year since then, we would think that we would soon return. Looking back on those years I am gratefully aware of how much Abu Dhabi has given us; and to that I am thankful.

It is obvious that there is definitely no ‘perfect’ place as the word implies.  We all get tired of our exasperating routine, our never ending responsibilities, and our poisoning uncertainties.  However, we can always find a  way out that directs us to meet other goals and build up on previous experiences.
During those years, I have experienced being both a stay at home mom and a working mom. With both roles, Abu Dhabi has and still provides me with all the basic needs, luxurious facilities, and abundant time to live and enjoy my family.
Abu Dhabi endorsed me with a cocoon, a home, and a sanctuary that engulfs us with tranquility and peace of mind. With its cosmopolitan regime, it offered me unique opportunities in meeting supportive friends, amazing colleagues, and great people who taught me a lot. It even increased our circle with close and far relatives from different parts of the world.
Moreover, it continues to give our children educational and recreational opportunities that hopefully will open new horizons later in their future.
The beauty of its desert and the blue azure that proudly engulfs it, make our children appreciate nature with all its perfection and flawlessness.
Last but not least, our presence here was the main reason behind having our beloved five whom we might not have even considered if we were still living in France.

I am certain that each family and every person who had lived and still lives here has a great owe to everything they have achieved. Those who came fifty years ago and those who have been here for a few years, leave with a special imprint in their hearts deciphering the unique beauty of the Arabian life. We find ourselves enjoying our life, our difficulties, and our bewilderment all at the same time. This is how we rejoice in loving this ‘home’ and we are bound to it for all eternity.

I felt the urge and need to express my appreciation and thank our lucky stars for having us live in the splendid UAE. Without it we wouldn’t have been bestowed with all those blessings.
Would like to hear from your experiences as moms living in Abu Dhabi and how fruitfully living here has been on you and your families. 

April 27, 2005

That’s To You, My Child!

My dear child that’s to you, so you know what life might do!
You might meet those who nag
And others that might carry your bag…
Some are cross and make you dare
Others would simply show that they care.
A group might lie
And could even leave you to die,
While honest ones will still appear
To help make the pain disappear…
Yet true friends are hard to find
So choose well and don’t be blind…
Be aware of pits and walls
Make sure you avoid the falls.
But don’t forget that mistakes are good
If they are well taken and understood.
After all life is a game
As you grow, it won’t be the same…
Play it well, do your part
But reserve your golden heart!
Everyday there is something new
A lesson, a truth, a reality to view
I promise to help you with all my might,
But it is God who will open your inner sight.
Laugh, create, imagine and dream
Play, dance, run and scream
Be polite, help those in need
Seek the truth, learn and read!
I love you, you are my child
And I’ll always be your guide
To help you when in need or in pain
To happily share your triumphs and gain….
I can write a million word
To assure you’ll successfully face that extraordinary world…
Before one day you depart and leave to explore,
Taking my aching heart with you out of the door!
But that is life,
With its beauty and its hardship which cuts like a knife…
These are my words before we part,
But for now I’ll enjoy you with all my heart….
So that’s to her to him and to you
That’s to all the five of you!

Rania HUSSANT

 

Reflections…

​Can’t believe that in a few days we will be bidding 2016 good bye and welcoming 2017.

How fast is time flying?! But then again what is time!? That illusion which man has created in order to organize life, work, events, and record history.
We find ourselves dragged by it, controlled with it, and even reassured within it.
Being the very punctual person that I am, time sometimes becomes my biggest enemy. I find myself juggling amongst my family, my work, and of course blogging.  I see myself that helicopter hovering around many errands, duties, and obligations. That helicopter with its propellers spiraling round and round in such a speed, yet making the best out of the time limit given. However, the good part of being that helicopter is the advantage of having the ability to stop in midair, take a breath, and reflect. I could observe my children, people, humans, actions, reality, life, and simply enjoy the present moment – forgetting about all those limits… those numbers.

In fact, I have never been a fan of numbers or dates. Still, I find myself attracted to the mystery they carry and the fact how ironically our lives roam around them. At that moment reality hits, and I realize that the only substantial time is what I have now. It is then that I come to digest the fact that the most meaningful struggle a person faces is actually Being in every single minute of life.
So for 2017, I wish you all my dear readers and awesome followers a limitless year  with all the meanings this word carries….

What are your reflections for 2017?

Happy Halloween! 

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This year we celebrated Halloween three times on three consecutive occasions. The boys were thrilled to be able to wear their unique costumes, that were purchased from Party City and which they were so fond of, for three continous days.  I was even delighted to see how ecstatic the twins felt as their pumpkins got filled up with candy and chocolate every time they said, “Happy Halloween! ” I cannot believe how fast time flies.  They were just born yesterday, and now they happily participate in special festivities with their siblings.

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First we celebrated along with special friends and relatives.  Three awesome mamas took care of the decoration, turning the area into a beautiful Halloween setting.  They also prepared delicious homemade goodies and snacks, and organized fun Halloween activities. We all had a blast as we played, jumped, and raced – even the little ones of the group.

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We, as moms, also got dressed up with some simple but fun costumes to join in the celebration with our kiddos. It simply becomes more meaningful when we are involved and join in the fun.

 

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The next day, my hubby, kids, and I went to another cherished friend’s house where the kids enjoyed trick or treating.  Again,  they were showered with tasty snacks, extraordinary goodies, and heaps of candy.

Finally,  and like every year,  the boys went trick or treating in the neighborhood along with their dear friends. The excitement was peculiar as well.

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Every time I cannot but notice the joy that glows from their young faces.  The whole scenario as I observe them melts my heart.  I look at them with pride as I silently pray that we will always be able to provide them with such happiness on any occasion given. I hope that, one day,  when they look back, they would be thankful and joyful as they reminisce over those special images from their childhood. As I write these words, my heart swells up, and I feel more than grateful for all the blessings I am entrusted with.

Happy Halloween to all of you my dear readers,  followers,  and friends. A big thank you goes to all of those who made our Halloween as special as it was. Hope you have enjoyed yours as well!

 

What Would I Tell Myself If? 

TOSHIBA Exif JPEGBeing surrounded by a few new moms and hearing the various struggles they are going through with their little ones took me back twelve years ago. I was able to relate to a lot of the difficulties they are currently facing and was assuring them that this too shall pass. Listening to them also gave me the chance to reflect on the path that I have been on and was wondering what message would I have sent myself if I was able to go back in time?

Avoid perfection:

First,  I would lower my expectations to be the perfect mom with a perfect baby. At that time I thought I could maintain an organized routine the way I have always done.  So instead of napping when he did,  I continued to tidy up the house,  cook, and do the never ending laundry. Moreover, he wasn’t the type of babies who slept through the night. I used to spend my days and nights indulged in feeding,  diaper changing, and more of those inexplicable heartbreaking cries!  The result;  I was drained due to the excessive pressure I have put on myself by aiming to seek perfection.

Learn to accept reality :

I learned through my experience that I needed to be more patient and to happily accept the sudden changes that quickly became our daily routine.
I also learned that those long nights and endless cries will come to an end.  It is only a stage before you move on to maybe yet another more complicated one.

Learn to accept advice:

I learned that advice coming from experienced people could be taken into consideration. For example,  I completely refused to give my boy a pacifier thinking only of its disadvantages. I was also afraid that he might get attached to it, leaving me unable to control it later on. Instead, I would nurse him every time he started crying, wondering if I had enough milk supply!

Be less anxious:

I admit with my first,  I was kind of worried about small  and unimportant details,  despite the fact that he was a healthy baby. By experience, I learned how these worries and anxieties can be felt by my babies.  So why would I reflect negative feelings when I can supply them with excessive positive love?

Give some time for myself:

If I look back at how I neglected myself and my appearance at that time,  I would be surprised.  A friend once told me how important it was for me to go for a walk alone,  have a Mani-padi every once in a while.  Of course, I did not as I thought I would be that bad and egoistic mummy if I don’t sacrifice every single minute for him.

Give some time to my hubby:

In the same talking,  I indirectly neglected our relationship focusing mainly on our baby, his needs, and then I would be too tired to even consider an outing or to spend some fun time with my hubby.

The good thing behind this, is that I have drastically changed throughout the years.  I learned from my mistakes, as I matured into motherhood. Thankfully, I succeeded in avoiding these inconsistencies with my other children, and I learned to enjoy being a mom of five. After all nothing is worth all the stress, the guilt, the pain, and even the physical fatigue. What really matters is the loving positive message we can provide our precious children with, right from day one.

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Caviar Tasting – Emirates Palace

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Last Wednesday, I was treated to an ultimate caviar tasting experience that left me marveled with the fulfilling rich buttery taste of caviar. With its customary royal host, the Emirates Palace along with AmStur Caviar cordially received us on a caviar journey inclusive of rare varieties and best pairings.

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Nicholas Narsavidze Partner of AmStur revealed to us some insight into this revered delicacy. To some, caviar may seem intimidating as the fine pearls of caviar can sell for tens of thousands of dollars and scream luxury. However, caviar doesn’t have to be inaccessible as now you have the opportunity to try it yourself.

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I strongly encourage you to join this unique delicacy where you can indulge yourself in Sayad’s Caviar Masterclass on the 20th of October. The Masterclass will be followed by an elegant four-course menu that includes fine caviar accompanied by bubbles and carefully selected grape beverages all for 450 ++ AED. 

I will not overload you with words, so I will let the pictures taken at the event speak for themselves.

 

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For more information or reservations, please call +971 (0) 2 690 7999 or email restaurants@emiratespalace.ae.