Being a mom in the twentieth century demands a lot of responsibilities and running errands. Having all those duties in the aim to be “the super mom” who sacrifices her life for her children, we find that we have forfeited on many of our priorities to make our children get the best possible childhood. We may even assume that the only way we can be considered as ‘good’ mothers is by only focusing on our children and hence tend to feel comfortable in isolating ourselves for a while! Whether you are a working mom or a stay at home mom these constant daily juggles and efforts can take their toll and zap even the most resourceful mother’s energy reserve.
Therefore, every mom needs some alone time…
In order for us to maintain a positive spirit and to continue providing our youngsters with our endless care and attention, we should find that time on our own. It is essential that every mom seizes the opportunity to have some time away from her little ones to recharge, rejuvenate and refresh herself.
Here are some of the ‘me time’ ideas that we, as moms, should try to incorporate within our hectic schedules:
Girl’s night out:
No outings can beat those where you and the ladies meet for dinner, drinks or any other gathering. The laughs and chuckles you do together refresh a mom’s soul and help her relive the times when she was on her own, free of responsibilities, and mostly that she is surrounded by supportive friends. It is also a chance for women to share their experiences or frustration, express themselves and think out loud which has been scientifically proven to be very soothing and comforting for their wellbeing.
Indeed, the article written by Suzanne Braun Levine states that ‘research shows that when women are sharing an experience with other women, their bodies produce oxytocin, also known as the “cuddle hormone” because it is released in mothers when they’re nursing… our friends consistently elicit that warm glow, which feels good and soothes anxiety.’ (http://www.more.com/girlfriends-good-health-nextavenue)
Hit the gym:
For a busy mother with a hectic schedule, going for a run or hitting the gym may be daunting no matter how much you motivate yourself. There is always something else that can be done, some chore or errand to finish… However, being a sportive mom rejuvenates your energy by helping you blow off some steam, release stress and gain an optimistic attitude. After a session of jogging, aerobics or any other sportive activity you go back to your family feeling light, energetic and mostly happy. Like water, doing sports should be a crucial part of a mom’s lifestyle. If you have the possibility of having someone whom you trust to baby sit your children, it will be a bonus. If not, you can simply put your child in a stroller and have a vigorous walk around the neighbourhood. By doing so, both the mom and child will enjoy an outing and both will profit from it.
Remember, exercise releases chemicals called endorphins which are also known as the ‘happy hormones’! Happy moms are the best 🙂
A little shopping never hurt nobody (except the bank account):
I am sure many of you do agree that shopping makes a woman feel excited and motivated. There is this secret about it, and doing it from time to time revives your enthusiasm and reflects a positive approach on the outside as well. If you do not have the time to do so, one good way is to shop online or download applications of your favourite brands, where you can do some “screen shopping” and head directly to the store to buy your selected items.
In fact, science has also proven the health benefits related to shopping. Similar to sports, the ‘happy hormones’ endorphins are released during a woman’s shopping experience. Moreover, another study showed that dopamine, a chemical produced in the brain which will be released during pleasurable experiences, is also triggered!
Happy wife, happy life… right guys?
Hang out with your better half:
“Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.”
It is true that children require a lot of time and parenting consumes the days and nights without us being aware of it. However, as the famous Lebanese writer Gibran Khalil Gibran makes it clear that our children will soon leave the house and start their own lives. Making sure that both parents find a time for themselves helps them in building a blissful retirement together. Moreover, it will make you enjoy your role in being the cheerful and beloved wife as it keeps the sparkle between the two, makes you feel young again, and appreciate what you have achieved together.
Get a Mani-Pedi:
This is a tension relieving activity which can be done at home, if you do not have the time to go to a professional salon. Having your nails done with the hand and foot massage, highlights a woman’s femininity, relaxes you, and simply makes you feel better about yourself.
Power naps boost a mom’s liveliness. It also helps in providing her with a radiant face. As the children are playing calmly with a puzzle, or any other toy, a mom can nap next to them and cleanse her fatigue away.
Have a book to read:
It is important to have some time where a mom indulgences herself in a good book. Reading keeps your mind sharp, gives you an idea of what is happening around you, or simply takes you into a fantasy world where you feel that you have broken your daily routine.
Yoga and Meditation:
A spiritual activity trains a person to become more patient, to accept struggles and conflicts and mainly to overcome them. In her book Thrive, Arianna Huffington explains the importance of integrating meditation and mindfulness in our daily lives. She says: “There is more and more scientific evidence about the impact of mindfulness and meditation in our lives. The list of all the conditions that these practices impact for the better—depression, anxiety, heart disease, memory, aging, creativity—sounds like a label on snake oil from the 19th century! Except this cure-all is real, and there are no toxic side effects.”
Enjoy some ‘me time’ ladies and would love to hear what you do during that time. 🙂